When celebrities do stupid things

First, Michael Phelps got photographed smoking the bong. Then A-Rod admitted to using drugs. And now Chris Brown is beating up his girlfriend. When are celebrities going to realize that they can't do stupid things anymore?

A spokesperson for Billboard records speculates that Chris Brown's career is now over. And while what Chris Brown did was terrible, I find that kind of interesting that beating your girlfriend can end your career.

After all, celebrities do drugs and their careers are fine. They can shave their heads and take a bat to their ex-husband's car and no one bats an eye. Cheat on their taxes and their significant others and face no consequences. They can even kill another man and their records sell more than ever. But beat your girlfriend...that's just too far.

Maybe part of it is our culture - men don't hit girls. And perhaps, because of that, what Chris Brown is unforgivable in fans' eyes. Don't get me wrong - I'm in no way justifying what he has done and I agree that Chris Brown's records and bank account should face a terrible consequence as a result. I just find it a bit amusing that the public has reacted so vehemently to this crime, when it tends to turn a blind eye to others. But it also makes me wonder how this reflects the way we think of women in our society - as vulnerable and needing protection.

Rihanna is a victim, no doubt. But I hope she doesn't fall into the annals of stupid-dom, as well. After all, if she chooses to go back to Chris Brown, to forget his past acts of violence and become his girlfriend again, then I think fans should react in kind. She has a chance to be a role model and stand up for other victims in her plight; I just hope she isn't stupid and screw it up.

UPDATE: Rihanna and Chris Brown are back together. They are both idiots.

A bit of the macabre

Along with the whole "living green" trend comes the "dying green" trend. This is one that I've heard about for some years and I completely agree with. In fact, when I die, I don't want to be cremated or preserved forever in some coffin. Just stick me in a burlap sack and plant a tree on top of me. What better way to poetically demostrate the circle of life.

But it appears that, in recent years, the dying green trend has really boomed. Now you can be cremeated in a cardboard box, which reduces the harmful emissions into the atmosphere when burned. Or you can be formed into a new coral reef, where fish can live among you and loved ones can visit during scuba diving trips.

For those with no intention of dying just yet, you can still recycle and feed your quirkiness at the same time. Coffin Couches takes unused or damaged coffins and renovates them into couches. At $3,500 each, they are not for the faint of heart (or wallet), but can add that touch of class to a tatoo parlor or celebrity's house. I would consider purchasing one, but none of the ones showcased on the website quite go with my Pottery Barn-like decor. I can already see the gears rolling in some producers' heads for a new show on TLG or HGTV: Pimp My Coffin.

And with the green movement underway, what network can resist?

Girl Power

I heard an interesting tidbit the other day:

For the first time in history, women are about to be the majority in the work force in about a month. This is according to analysts who have been looking at patterns and industries effected by job cuts. More men have recently been laid off due to the nature of the jobs/industries (e.g. manufacturing, labor, etc.) whereas women tend to have jobs that are more representative of services or are working part-time.

So this got me thinking: if this is true, then I wonder if this will have bigger implications down the road, to the benefit of women. In the 1940s, women started to have a larger presence in the work force due to men being deployed overseas to fight WWII and I wonder if that later led to women having the confidence (and men realizing the value that women bring to the workforce) to assume larger roles and later, career paths. Now, if women are becoming the main breadwinners, I wonder if this will lead to an increase in gender equality and pay in the workforce. Perhaps this is the silver lining to the economic crisis we're in - closing the remaining gap between women and men, at least when it comes to careers, especially in upper management which seems to be dominated by men.

Regardless, I think now is a good time to remember that women are classifed as minority group under the law. And this means that women need to help one another, especially when it comes to boosting one another's careers and helping one another rise to upper management positions. No one is more critical than a woman, especially of other women, myself included. But we need to support one another, champion one another so we can become more powerful and confident.

Yes, we should do this for everyone, regardless of gender. But we should especially do this for our own and help one another become the very best a woman can be.

Hope doesn't just belong to America

It also belongs to Zimbabwe. Today, Morgan Tsvangirai, the opposition-party's leader, officially became Prime Minister of Zimbabwe, in a power-sharing agreement that he and Mugabe signed some time back.

I really hope that Tsvangirai can bring some peace, aid and resources to this country and its people. At the very least, I hope that he can stop the cholera outbreak and be able to treat the more than 65,000 people who are infected. And I hope that power doesn't go to his head, that he remembers the struggle, tyranny and fear that Mugabe and inflicted upon this country.

But Mugabe is still the President of Zimbabwe, so I suspect that it will be some time before we start to see some positive movement. After all, he's trying to fund his 85th birthday bash by soliciting donations from people (who in their right mind would fund this thing, I don't know).

While 65,000 of his people suffer from cholera (with 4,000 already dead), another 5 million of his people in need of food aid, and with his economy enjoying a 1,593% annual inflation rate, Mugabe's donation list includes the following:

• 2,000 bottles of champagne
• 8,000 lobsters
• 4,000 portions of cavier
• 8,000 boxes of Ferrero Rocher chocolates
• 3,000 ducks
• 100 kg prawn

Is anyone else but me sick to their stomachs?

Eat a doughnut and run

Saturday marked the 5th annual Krispy Kreme Challenge, sponsored by NC State University. The objective of the challenge is simple:

• Run the 2 miles from the NC State belltower to the local Krispy Kreme


• Eat a dozen glazed doughnuts


• Run the 2 miles back to the NC State belltower


• Do not throw up

The winner did all this is 28:09. This means he ate 12 doughnuts in 5 minutes. If you participate as a challenger and complete the challenge (you must finish in under an hour to be eligible), you get a free t-shirt. Now, you can compete as a casual runner, which means you can eat as many doughnuts as you like, but you don't get a free t-shirt.

Scott and I did our part to support the runners by waiting at the Krispy Kreme with one doughnut (each) and coffee in hand, cheering on the contenders. Over 5,000 people participated, and ESPN was on the scene, so it was pretty amazing to see. Plus, the funny costumes added to the liveliness. One guy was dressed in a full-out tuxedo. Another pair of friends were dressed as Krispy Kreme and Dunkin Donuts coffee cups. Still others decided to run in nothing but a Speedo.

The truly amazing thing is how this story got picked up. My parents, in southern IL, read about the race on the second page of their newspaper. I guess when there are doughnuts involved, people pay attention.

All proceeds benefit the NC Children's Hospital, so it's all good fun for a good cause. Maybe next year we'll take a stab at the race...as a casual runner.

Latte Wisdom

On my Starbucks latte cup this morning, I came across this pearl of wisdom from "The Way I see It" series. This one is #129:

The first person to walk on Mars could be alive today. If so, she's most likely two years old and living in China.

--Andrew Zolli, Futurist and National Geographic Emerging Explorer

The sad thing is, he's probably right. We need to light a fire under our collective American arses and start getting excited about math and science. We're losing the battle and it's more than just national pride - it's about educating our children properly. While children in other parts of the world are learning math and science concepts and longing to get higher degress in these subjects, our children are watching TV or reading up on Jessica Simpson's weight battle. No wonder the Chinese our beating us in the economy and brains. We just don't care any more.

Maybe we need another space race. A race to Mars, perhaps. Something to join us as a nation and get kids and teenagers excited about learning and education.

Down Goes the Devil

Making another run for #1, Wake pulled off a fantastic win over Duke last night. If you missed the game, you missed one of the most exciting basketball battles so far this year. Wake came out strong, leading Duke at the half and for most of the second, before Duke started to pull up.

And then there were seconds left on the clock and Duke was down by two. Duke goes in for a three point shot (we held our breath) and missed. The rebound came straight towards Johnson, one of our guards, who just stood there. I swear he wasn't paying attention. He totally missed the opportunity and Duke snagged the rebound and put it in to tie us, 68-68.

Our ball, with just seconds left on the clock. Johnson redeems himself with a shot that just slid in (we held our breath). 0.8 seconds left and it's over. Won by 2 points and Duke goes down from the podium.

Our boys played fast and strong and, while Virginia Tech did hand us our first loss last week, I think we rebounded nicely. If we keep playing like this, we're sure to be first seed in the tourney.

Maybe this is the year.

Praise Song

I watched the inauguration on an airport TV, with twenty of us huddled around, straining to listen to the din and speeches over the tinny airport speaker. Until one lady found CNBC on her blackberry and put it on speaker and then we craned our ears to the small phone, eyes glued to the TV. And then we boarded the plane and hurried to find the channels on our personal TVs to watch the parade and the show of emotion between the Obamas.

What we didn't see, perhaps because we were distracted by our flight delay, was the inaugural poem by Elizabeth Alexander. So I found it the transcript online and I really like the poem, or praise song. As I found out last night, as I watched Elizabeth on the Colbert Report, a praise song is a west African form of celebration. What I like is that, while it is clearly celebrating the inauguration and the historic event of it, it really can be applied to many situations in which there was struggle and achievement.

Praise song for the day.

Each day we go about our business, walking past each other, catching each others' eyes or not, about to speak or speaking. All about us is noise. All about us is noise and bramble, thorn and din, each one of our ancestors on our tongues. Someone is stitching up a hem, darning a hole in a uniform, patching a tire, repairing the things in need of repair.

Someone is trying to make music somewhere with a pair of wooden spoons on an oil drum with cello, boom box, harmonica, voice.

A woman and her son wait for the bus.

A farmer considers the changing sky; A teacher says, "Take out your pencils. Begin."

We encounter each other in words, words spiny or smooth, whispered or declaimed; words to consider, reconsider.

We cross dirt roads and highways that mark the will of someone and then others who said, "I need to see what's on the other side; I know there's something better down the road."

We need to find a place where we are safe; We walk into that which we cannot yet see.

Say it plain, that many have died for this day. Sing the names of the dead who brought us here, who laid the train tracks, raised the bridges, picked the cotton and the lettuce, built brick by brick the glittering edifices they would then keep clean and work inside of.

Praise song for struggle; praise song for the day. Praise song for every hand-lettered sign; The figuring it out at kitchen tables.

Some live by "Love thy neighbor as thy self."

Others by first do no harm, or take no more than you need.

What if the mightiest word is love, love beyond marital, filial, national. Love that casts a widening pool of light. Love with no need to preempt grievance.

In today's sharp sparkle, this winter air, anything can be made, any sentence begun.

On the brink, on the brim, on the cusp -- praise song for walking forward in that light.

Little Baby B

This weekend I jaunted up to Connecticut to see Elizabeth, my college roommate. She is among the gaggle of friends who have lately decided to take the baby plunge and I wanted to see her in all her pregnant glory.

There were two parts of the visit that were amazing to me: first, that there was this little person growing inside of Elizabeth. Yeah, we've all learned about the "Miracle of Life" and from what little experience I've had with it, it truly is a miracle and a wonder that these two people - these two cells - come together to form a whole new human being. But that was somewhat abstract to me until I actually saw Elizabeth's belly and felt that whole new human being inside. To think that this little person - whom I felt hiccup and kick and move - will one day be running and climbing things and interacting with people is truly amazing.

The second part was seeing Elizabeth in a whole new way. This is my college roommate, the person I shared a life with for two years, with whom I had balloon swordfights, picked out the perfect frat party outfit, ate together at The Pit - and now she's all grown up and a mother. To see that transformation was really special.

Thank you to Elizabeth, Chris and Lilly for hosting me this weekend and allowing me to be a part of such a special time in your lives! No, I'm not getting any ideas, but I feel so blessed to be a part of something much bigger than anyone.

Believe

The rankings just came out today and, according to both polls, Wake Forest is ranked the number one team in the nation for basketball! We are the only unbeaten basketball team right now, and I hope that remains true through this week, although we do have two tough games coming up - Virgina Tech and Duke. We're a passionate team, though, and with this little boost, I hope we can give them both a good fight.

This is a great testament to the basketball program at Wake and the spirit of this young team. I've always been proud to be a Demon Deacon, but this week, I'm just glowing!

Let's go Deacons!

Long live whitey

As inauguration day draws nearer, we're hearing reports of how the Secret Service and the government are preparing for the big day - primarily against any kind of attempt on the life of our President-elect. While I'm sure such measures are always taken on Inauguration Day, this time it's even more important as this will be our very first black President.

The fear is that white supremacists will be looking to prevent Obama from taking office. Ever since election night, there has been a spike of chatter among these groups and while no formal plan seems to yet exist to assassinate Obama, who knows what may be lurking under the radar?

I find it absolutely amazing that white supremacy still exists in this country. Sure, I know that there is racism and prejudice, but at such a level where you are planning to fly the American flag upside down on Inauguration Day seems like a scene from the 1950s. Do these people really exist? And how could they live in our society, work in our businesses and hold these beliefs? The mainstream America seems to be past extreme hatred and racism, so how can you live in this American culture and still hold on to a such terrible and antiquidated belief system?

Reminds me of an old Tupac song:

I see no changes all I see is racist faces
misplaced hate makes disgrace to races
We under I wonder what it takes to make this one better place, let's erase the wasted
Take the evil out the people they'll be acting right
'cause both black and white is smokin' crack tonight
and only time we chill is when we kill each other
it takes skill to be real, time to heal each other
And although it seems heaven sent
We ain't ready, to see a black President...

I think we are ready. And maybe having a black President will cause these fringe groups to see the truth about us as an American people and a human race. I really hope that, if this presidency does nothing else, it eliminates whatever racism that exists in this country that I just fail to comprehend.

How 'bout them Deacons?

Sunday night was the big game between Wake Forest and UNC-Carolina. And, what a game! It was close the entire time, with Wake staying ahead pretty much the whole time, pulling out a 3-point win! It was exhilirating to watch Wake play and to put all those critics' noise to rest about Carolina being the best team in the nation. With a record of 0-2 in the ACC, it looks like Carolina may have been hyped up a bit.

Of course, anything can happen at any game.

But it's nice to be able to gloat a bit. Wake has always been strong in basektball, but this year proves to be exciting with a talented team. And with no Seniors on the team, we know these boys will be around for a few more years.

Go Deacs!

Pay to play

I know, I know. I'm obsessed with Zimbabwe. I can't explain the fixation I have with the country and Mugabe's dicatatorship. And I realize that, by getting my information from American news sources, I may not be considering all sides of the story.

But I also believe that America has a free press and, because of that, I trust the information that I get from it. Zimbabwe's press, however, is not free. And now they are charging exorbinantly high prices for foreign journalists to work in the country. You wouldn't charge people to report if you had nothing to hide.

This, from CNN.com:

HARARE, Zimbabwe (CNN) -- The Zimbabwean government has announced restrictive licensing fees for foreign journalists working in the country, demanding they pay an annual fee of $4,000 to practice journalism.

In addition foreign media groups must pay $10,000 for the application and $20,000 for accreditation, payable only in foreign currency, the government-controlled Media and Information Commission said Wednesday. An administration fee of $2,000 is necessary for the permit.

Zimbabwe has some of the harshest conditions for journalists in the world. Several foreign and local journalists have been arrested in Zimbabwe for lack of accreditation since a media law was passed in 2002.

Most Western media organizations including CNN are banned from Zimbabwe. Those that do still operate there including Reuters, The Associated Press, Agence France-Presse (AFP) and Al Jazeera would have to pay the fee if they wanted to report from the country.

Zimbabwean government spokesman George Charamba said the fee was being introduced because foreign media organizations were "reducing local reporters to mere runners."

The new fees do not apply to journalists working for Zimbabwean organizations...

When we visited the Newseum last month, there was this great wall mural that depicted how free the press was in each country of the world. Those countries that had a completely free press were also democracies and developed countries (US, Canada, Western Europe, etc). Those who had somewhat free presses were developing countries without any major world issues going on (Russia, Brazil, etc). Those that had no free press were those countries and geographies riddled with strife (much of Africa, China, Middle East).

I haven't studied this issue so I can't say there is a causation. But the correlation seems pretty clear. That speaks volumes for the power of the pen, the power of free thought and dissent, and the power of knowledge.

A pot of gold

The weather yesterday was sunny and warm, a balmy 55 degrees in January. And then, around 4:00pm, a very ominous looking cloud system started to creep over the sky. By 4:30pm, it was raining hard and by 6:00pm it was hailing.

But there was a break between the hard rain and the hail, and as I was driving home (travelling east, into the storm system), the sun peeked out for a small while. And there, to my right, was a fully formed rainbow. A few minutes later, another fully formed rainbow appeared, right above it. A double bow.

What I find funny is that we know exactly how rainbows are formed...refraction of light from the water particles. But even though we know this, it's a spectacle that still catches us by surprise and causes us to be happy. It's still a very magical scene, maybe because it doesn't happen that often, and it's easy to see why people once believed it was the work of pointy-eared leprechauns who planted a pot of gold at the end.

But maybe the rainbow, itself, is the pot of gold. What a beautiful surprise at the end of the day.

Holidays on Ice, Part 2

Happy New Year!

It's crazy to think that another year has started...where has the time gone? But I'm excited about this new year - a fresh start for new convictions and new ideas. Both politically and personally, I'm interested to see where 2009 will bring us.

We started off the New Year by applying for the Darwin awards. Scott and I jaunted up to Galena, IL with Abby and Nathan and spent the week being pulled and whipped around in a saucer sled by a six-wheeler. There were a few crashings into trees and thorns, a few flings into the lake (which were frozen solid, fortunately) and a few tumbles (no cracked bones, fortunately). As always, a lot of fun, although it was so, so cold. I never knew my sinuses could hurt from the cold.

So here's to safe journeys and safer activities in the future...and to a happy and health New Year!

There are no words

Mugabe is at it again. I just don't even think there is any way to respond to this. When you're dealing with blinded idiots, you just can't reason with them. I can't help but think that Mugabe's fear tactic reminds me of another dictator not-so-long ago.This from CNN:

Zimbabwe: Cholera is genocide by UK
One of Zimbabwe's top officials blamed his country's spreading cholera outbreak on what he calls "a genocidal onslaught" by Zimbabwe's former colonial ruler -- Britain.

Zimbabwean clinics have been overwhelmed by the cholera epidemic, according to aid organizations. "Cholera is a calculated, racist attack on Zimbabwe by the unrepentant former colonial power, which has enlisted support from its American and Western allies so that they can invade the country," Information Minister Sikhanyiso Ndlovu told reporters. Britain ruled the country as a colony until 1965.

Ndlovu's claims triggered quick and pointed reaction from Britain and the United States. In Washington, State Department spokesman Rob McInturff called Ndlovu's accusations "patently ridiculous."

Referring to Zimbabwean President Robert Mugabe, McInturff said Friday that, "Mugabe is clearly unwilling to take any meaningful action (to stop the cholera outbreak)."

On Thursday, Mugabe said "there is no cholera in the country." His spokesman later said that Mugabe was sarcastically ridiculing what he believes are Western designs to invade the country.Britain's Africa minister, Mark Malloch-Brown responded by saying, "I don't know what world he (Mugabe) is living in," according to the British newspaper The Guardian.

Malloch-Brown made the comment during a one-day trip to South Africa, where he visited a Johannesburg church housing 1,600 Zimbabweans who have fled their country, the newspaper said. "There is a raging humanitarian crisis in Zimbabwe as well as an economic crisis and still there is no representative government able to lead the country out of this disaster," he said, according to The Guardian.

Cholera has ravaged Zimbabwe, causing nearly 800 deaths and infecting more than 16,000 people, the World Health Organization says.

The outbreak could surpass 60 000 cases, according to an estimate by the Zimbabwe Health Cluster, which is a group coordinated by the World Health Organization.

Information Minister Sikhanyiso Ndlovu, by the way, is the same guy who said a few weeks ago that Zimbabwe had enough chemicals and money to repair sewer lines and clean the water. I guess his countrymen are still waiting for those chemicals and money.

Every smile matters

As we wind up 2008, I can't help but think what's in store for 2009. And I'm not sure what to expect: while I'm excited about the prospect of a new page in history for our country with our new President, Cabinet and Congress, I look around and see a lot of challenges.

There's the looming financial crisis - and with it, the depletion of so many people's retirement accounts; war in the Middle East - with the newest addition of Israel to the theatre; poverty, corruption and genocide in Africa; and the pollution and destruction of our planet, to name just a few. While there is a lot to celebrate from 2008 and a lot to look forward to in 2009, there's also a lot of sadness in our world.

So I think we should make a New Year's resolution to be nicer to one another. To smile to each other a little more. To be kinder and more generous. Yes, perhaps that sounds naive. But when we feel lost or overwhelmed, we must remember that we always have our humanity. We are all in this together - no matter where we live or what we look like - and we share in the sadness and the joys together. So by each one of us being a little nicer, a little more human, to one another, perhaps we can help make all these world crises a little more tolerable.

If my recycling makes a difference, then my smile can, too. It's just a little thing, but if everyone did something little, then think how great we, as a human race, could be together.

Washington, DC in love

This past weekend, Scott and I went up to DC for a quick trip. We live so close to the city (about 4 1/2 hours), but we have seldom visited, so we decided the holidays might be a great time to get away for a bit and spend the weekend exploring.

We had such a fabulous time and have decided that we love DC...so much, so, that we might want to move there. Up until now, I've longed to live in NYC. I'm a city girl at heart and I love the chaos and the hustle and bustle of New York. But after visiting DC, I might be changing my mind. DC offers everything New York does, but has more charm and character. I love that you are constantly surrounded by American history and there's always a buzz of politics going on around you. People in DC were so friendly, the prices were no more expensive than they are in Raleigh and the city has all of the bustle, without any of the hustle.

Of course, I'd want to live in Georgetown, but I seemed to have misplaced the $2 million dollars I saved for a house.

It was great catching up with Kristen while we were town. We ate at a fun brunch spot in DuPont Circle (Kramer's Books) with her and chatted over coffee, eggs and waffles. Yum! And I recommend the Newseum - possible the best museum I have ever been in.

I think we're planning another trip to DC in the Spring. We just might be in love.

Whopper Virgins

I came across this Burger King ad and loved it. The premise is that you can never really have a true, blinded taste test because everyone is influenced partly by brand, or has tasted one or the other burgers before. But what if you found people who had never heard of McDonald's or Burger King or the Whopper or the Big Mac? Which would they prefer? Of course, I'm not sure how accurate the tast test would be, given that hamburgers and beef are so outside of these people's cultural sphere.

This was done by Crispin Porter + Bogusky. It’s a little market research, a little ethnography, a little advertising and a lot of American domination of other cultures. After all, if everyone in the world hasn’t eaten a Whopper or Big Mac, then the terrorists have won.

It’s pretty interesting all around…

Mugabe is a thug

How has Mugabe managed to maintain control of Zimbabwe for the past 28 years? First he destroys Zimbabwe's farmland, then he refuses foreign humanitarian assistance and now his people are dying of cholera. And I haven't even mentioned the atrocities he and his cronies have committed against those who speak out against him and his political party.

This from an article on CNN.com:

Zimbabwe's information minister said Tuesday the cholera outbreak was under control, and he argued the West caused the health crisis and was using it as an excuse for military intervention.

Zimbabwe, already experiencing an economic crisis, was struck with the water-borne cholera in August. Health experts say the battle against the disease can only be won if Harare has adequate water-treating chemicals and disposes of refuse properly.

The information minister, Sikhanyiso Ndlovu, maintained the country has enough chemicals to purify water and enough money to buy pipes to mend sanitation lines.

I love it when the West is blamed for a dictator's actions. And if the country has enough chemicals and money to solve the outbreak, then why aren't they doing it?

I don't understand how someone in power could allow people - their own countrymen - to suffer in this way. I guess you can become so power-hungry and ego-obsessed that you're blinded to the terrible things you do to get that power. This guy reminds me of Amin. Why doesn't the rest of the international community do something to get this guy out of power and bring real democracy and peace to the country?